Well, your friend's focus is all wrong. Tell her to do what she likes and to be herself and it's as sure as night follows day, that she will be happy among people that somehow see themselves in her, either it is a personality trait, a similar taste in music, etc... If she spends all her energy trying to desperatly please others, she will be a hostage of their approval and she will always be dependent on that. Tell her to do her thing and just lay back and people will respond to that. How many? Just the right number... You go, girl