You could say to the person when you did/said that I felt hurt because...and see if they react with remorse. Just because you feel something is wrong or have been bought up to think something is wrong doesnt mean all people have the same view or value. Remember we are all governed by our experiences, cultural background and what we see and hear. It is possible that the other person doesnt realise, the world is not as clear cut as we would like to think. Give the other person a chance to learn and make the world a better place. :-)