Question

What should I do if I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years and he won't propose?

Answer 1

If you have been with him for 8 years and he won't get married this is what you need to do. DUMP HIM to the curb. Evidently he is afraid of commitment. Either that or he must think why buy the cow if he gets the milk for free.

Answer 2

Yep, ditch the zero and get wit the hero. No commit to relationship, then relationship no workie.

Answer 3

Decide whether you want to waste another 8 years of your life on him, then dump him

Answer 4

I would say that you need to have a conversation with him about why. Ask him if it is a fear of commitment and if so why. It could be that he thinks if you get married the relationship will change and he will lose something in the process. Worst case is that he doesnt want to marry you because he is still looking for something else. I think that most men have a fear of commitment because of the stereotypes that have been brought up around it. Like cut off from sex and their partner changes. I think those scenerios can happen in any relationship married or not. I dont know the ins and outs of your situation but it sounds like he might just be comfortable with the way things are right now. Maybe you could add to your question. Do you still have passion in the relationship? Do you have a good communication line open between the two of you? Do you question his love because of his actions? Has he cheated on you in the past or are you suspicious of his current activities? If you answer no to the first two and or yes to the last two questions you should consider a serious overview of your relationship. If you really want to be married to this person doubt cant be in the picture. Doubt and distrust can be the downfall to the foundation of a lasting relationship. I hope that you find an answer to this problem and that things work out for the best! Good Luck and Best Wishes! J

Answer 5

MARRIAGE IS JUST A PIECE OF PAPER THAT SAYS COMMITMENT. IF THE RELATIONSHIP IS GOOD THEN PAPER WON'T MAKE IT BETTER,IN FACT SOMETIMES IT CHANGES IT FOR THE WORST. JUST MAKE HIM AWARE THAT YOU DON'T PLAN TO HAVE CHILDREN UNTILL THERE'S A WEDDING FIRST AND MAKE AN HONEST MAN OUT OF HIM.:)

Answer 6

okay! only God can suppley your needs. i tell you this when dating if you cant see your self marrying the brother then don't date him. if you don't marry him and yall break you, thats eight years wasted and you could of been with some one else. were do you want to see your self two the three years from know. a man is going to do what you let him, you deserve better. girl i say and i know you might not want to here it but pray and give it to God because what needs to be remove from your life he will do it. ask God to give you winsdom and say if he is for me, he is for me and if not remove him.

Answer 7

ditch him

Answer 8

sounds like you two are at different points in your relationship. Ask him why he won't commit. "I don't know" is not an answer. If this is really important to you, give him a deadline. Stick to it and if there's no ring, best to move on. The time you waste on Mr. Wrong is time lost with Mr. Right.

Answer 9

Move on. He hasn't made a commitment by now, what makes you think he ever will? Don't fool yourself, you need to decide how important that little piece of paper is.