you must have missed your history lessons...marriage existed in all ancient cultures, ancient Romans,Greeks, etc. please check www.bible-history.com. Hammurapi lived 1810 BC - 1750 BC, he was the king of the Babylonian Empire, created the so called Hammurapi's Code of Laws, if you read through it, there are loads of information (rights, rules etc) about marriage itself, especially from law #128 on...so that was written down 2 almost thousand years before the Bible was written.Didn't have anything to do with God at all.. it was all about civil rights, inheritance, compensation etc.. a sole church wedding doesn't qualify as a legal marriage in any country.it's an 'addition' if you want to swear twice.... anyways,strangely enough most people get married these days because they love each other.... many people don't need the approval of The Church, cause they don't feel guilty for expressing their true love towards another human being.. i guess you are a virgin if not married, or your wife was the first woman you ever laid eyes on?honest now...