As long as the two people having sex are consenting adults, it is up to them to decide what to do behind closed doors.. As you may have heard and seen, a lot of people tend to abuse sex and each other. Perhaps this is what the writer had in mind when he wrote in the Bible about not having sex until one is married. As you know, there are many women today who are getting pregnant before marriage, and in quite a few instances, the man is either leaving, or suggesting that the child is not his.. Even some men who are married to women are saying that the child is not his. . I believe that as long as two people love each other and want to make a conscious effort to show their love, that is great.. However, many people use sex in a recreational way.. There are many young people who are having sex, and not using precaution - I read it often in yahoo answers - and those young people who are not of legal age should not be having sex until they are older and are more mature and are aware of what they are doing.. . So sex can be good, and sex can be bad - it depends upon the individual.. . As long as you follow your heart, that is what will guide you.. Don't use people for sex and don't let yourself get used for sex - unless that is where your head is - but consider the consequences of your actions.